Thriving during a deployment means ask for help and seek looking forward to goals and events.
Perhaps I have more of a root of pride in my heart than I would like to acknowledge, but it can be very difficult for me to ask for help.
In having two kids (an 11 month old and a just two-year old) I’ve gotten a little better with this help concept, but it is still a challenge sometimes.
My husband is wonderful. He always tells me, “Just take care of the girls, don’t worry about the house.” It’s great to know he doesn’t have sky-high expectations of what I can get done in a day (or week or month…), BUT as much as it doesn’t bother him, it can drive me up the wall in looking around and seeing so much not done. It’s not that my home is a pig sty and out of control clutter. Actually, I think it is probably in crazy good condition considering my two young children destroying it as fast as I can pick up anything. The thing is that sometimes even the smallest disarray can trigger anxiety for me. What may be fine one day will completely overwhelm on another day.
So, I called a cleaning lady (actually it is a lady and her husband that clean together, cute!). Not so much because I need help cleaning my house, but I need help maintaining my mental health and removing unnecessary stressors in a tumultuous time of deployment.
Their first day is on the first of May. It’s great to have this small “event” to look forward to, and I do promise to update. (Perhaps even with pictures!)
But for now…just the actual process of asking for help as proved to lift a burden.